#Labels, Labels… Who’s got the labels? #MondayMorning Fika w/ @AnastasiaVitsky #ASMSG #Respect #DEC

Good morning my lovelies.

Today, I’ve been invited to do Monday Morning Fika with Anastasia Vitsky.  

 

If you don’t know who she is,  you must be living under a rock.  The woman has brought F/F spanking into the limelight, and she seems to be producing another book ever few weeks.  I only met her back in September, and I think she’s released like 5 maybe 6 books since then!  She’s a wonderful writer, but more than that, Ana’s an amazing person, and I can’t tell you how excited I am to be invited to share my views on her blog.  

 

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Monday Morning Fika is not about advertising your books, well, it is but not in a traditional sense of the marketing field.  Ana likes to have real lifestyle topics for it. She wants to know why we’ve chosen this lifestyle, or just what’s on our minds regarding different aspects of the lifestyle. (I use the term lifestyle loosely here… it could include but is not limited to: D&D, BDSM, Leather, Swinger, Polyamorous, Gorean, etc.)

 

I’ve chosen the topic of Labels: I teach an entire class called “Do you fit inside this box?; it’s all about the use of labels, why or why not we should use them, and how they affect and effect us all, and not just in our lifestyle choices, but in everyday life as well. 

 

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Every single day we label things, places, and especially people. Are labels judgments?  Pop on over to Monday Morning Ficka and read just what I have to say about Labels!

 

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Name two things inside my article that you agreed or even disagreed with… keep it civil, please. 🙂  (Leave answers below)

 

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It’s all fun and games until someone dies! #ASMSG #socialmedia

Pardon my sobering thoughts  my lovelies… 

This year has been the year of tragedies in my personal as well as professional life, and the wheels and cogs are going crazy in my head. I know you’re saying…
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However, today I’m posting my first clearly grave and serious topic! I rarely talk about solemn or sobering things on here, but this one has touched me dearly.

Please keep reading… 

You see in my lifestyle of bdsm/leather; it’s a rarity that we share with our blood relatives what it is we do in our bedrooms or out on a Saturday night.

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Why you ask? Judgmental-ness is a dish best served– never. That’s why! 🙂

We fear judgment, and honestly, I know people who fear exorcisms being performed on them… ok maybe not that bad, but serious ridicule and damnation in some instances.

So…where am I going with this?  

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Once you put it out on the interwebz it’s there forever,  but you are here to maintain, and you can help keep the prying eyes from finding you. What happens when you are no longer here?  I know morbid thought, right? 

I told you this post was serious, and I hope you see the severity of the situation…

Who will tell your readers or internet friends you passed away?

Who will make sure your Twitter, Facebook, Linkd-in, Pinterest, and so and so forth are deleted?

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Who will hide your naughty books and toys?

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Who will wipe your phone of all the dirty photos? Or naughty sexting events you had with that girl on twitter?

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Who is going to clean out your email box so your mother doesn’t find out what a flipping pervert you really are? 

And now,  I’m going to focus specifically on erotica writers that haven’t opened up to their families about what they do on the side:

Who will you leave your copyrights and royalties to; if you haven’t told anyone you are a dirty word writer? 

These are all very serious questions that I think we need to ask ourselves.

Most of us are young and thinking about death seems very unimportant compared to who we’re partying with next. But after having 3 friends (1 younger than me), who had no such plan in place, die this year; I’m seriously thinking about thinking about death, and my plan if something were to happen…

Until death do us part

 

Do you have a plan?

 

Penelope Jones- Spanking it since 1996!

Be my guest … @CaraBristol joins me to talk about Spanking! #ASMSG

Good morning my Lovelies …

I have a very amazeballs treat for you. One of my favorite DD (Domestic Discipline) authors, Cara Bristol is my special guest today!

So without further ado … Welcome Cara! 

The open secret of spanking

By Cara Bristol

Will the spankos in blogland who are using their real names please raise their hands?

*Looks around*

Nobody?

That’s what I gathered.

In my research into domestic discipline and erotic spanking, I discovered that bloggers are very open and honest about their practices when they can be anonymous. But vanilla friends don’t know about their secret lifestyles, and when family and friends visit, great care is taken to hide evidence. I’ve read many blogs where the spankers lamented being unable to spank because they had house guests. And for single spankos, finding a compatible partner can be challenge. How do you approach a potential partner with the request you want to be spanked or like to spank?

The duality of the lifestyle, open and honest online, secret in the vanilla world, intrigued me. Inspired me.I thought, what if? What if I took this open secret one step farther? What if there was a place, an organization where spankos could go and be open about their lifestyle, to socialize with people who understood? I decided to create a social organization patterned after a gentleman’s club, in which all the men spanked their women.

So the Rod and Cane Society domestic discipline erotic romance series was born. It’s based in part, on real-life practices, but also incorporates a dose of fantasy, so all the men are dominant, macho men. Each book of the series is written as a stand-alone, focusing on the erotic romance and domestic discipline relationship of two characters. Books can be read out-of-order.  However, the Rod and Cane Society does/will grow and change throughout the books.

Rod and Cane begins as a secret organization. Members have to sign a confidentiality agreement, and there are penalties for violating it.

In book one, Unexpected Consequences, I introduce Rod and Cane, when a naïve bride marries a member. Her parents belong, and she knows of the organization, but she doesn’t know what it stands for. She and her new husband have discussed domestic discipline, but she assumes she would never do anything to warrant a spanking…

In book two, False Pretenses, an aspiring journalist infiltrates the organization intending to write a story. She doesn’t know that her new boyfriend is a member, nor is she aware of the penalties resulting from violating that confidentiality agreement…

In Body Politics, book three, Rod and Cane is in the process of becoming more open as a result of having been outed in the press. It’s a battle of the sexes when a feminist takes on member of the society.

More Rod and Cane Society novels are planned. In book four, which I’ll complete this year, there’s going to be a major shake-up in the organization and the live of one of the members introduced as a secondary character in a previous book.

 

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Body Politics blurb

Feminist Stephanie Gordon knows the instant she meets blind date Mark DeLuca it’s going to be a wasted evening. Sure the deputy chief of police is criminally sexy, but he’s arrogant, domineering and sexist. Thank goodness after the date ends, she’ll never have to see him again. A member of the Rod and Cane Society, an organization of men who discipline their women by spanking, Mark DeLuca is attracted to Stephanie like a paddle to a well-rounded ass. He sees beneath the shield of feminist militancy to the soft, sensitive woman she tries to hide. When she storms away in a snit, the chase is on. Can a man who spanks convince a diehard feminist her true strength lies in submission?

Body Politics excerpt

Stephanie flinched. She’d been enjoying having Mark stroke her butt; it had been both relaxing and arousing. She’d spread her legs, hoping he would caress her. When he’d made no move to spank her, she started to think the whole discipline thing had been a put-on.

Not.

He stung her ass. She wasn’t prepared for the sharpness—or the loud crack. He smacked her butt cheek dead center. Smack on the other one. She curled her fingers into his bedspread, commanding herself to remain silent. His arm was clamped like a vise over her lower back as he rained slaps upon her rear, the crease beneath her cheeks, the tops of her thighs. She wondered if striking her stung his hand as much as it hurt her ass. With all her heart, she hoped so.

He paused to rub her skin, easing the burn, then, holding her firmly again, he grabbed the paddle. Her ass cheeks and stomach clenched.

The first blow fell, searing skin already tender, and a whimper escaped her compressed lips. She’d thought his hand was unforgiving, but the paddle was worse. She buried her face in the nubby coverlet. With measured strokes, Mark spanked her as if timed by an invisible metronome. Crack. One, two.Crack. one, two. Crack.

“Tell me why I’m doing this.”

Because you’re a domineering asshole. She gritted her teeth to keep the words inside.

“Stephanie. I’m not talking to myself. I expect you to answer, or I’ll spank you until you do.”

He struck the crease where her ass met her thigh four times.

“No!” She twisted to avoid the spanks, but he held her fast.

“Answer my question.” Four more strikes to the other side.

She squeezed her eyes shut for a moment. Big girls don’t cry. “Because I acted rudely to Elizabeth.”

“That’s right. You were disrespectful. To her and to me.” He laid several hard blows to the middle of her cheeks. She’d seen the desire in his eyes; now she felt his disappointment. Surprisingly that bothered her. His opinion shouldn’t matter to her, but it did.

He set the paddle on the bed and massaged her skin, not slowly like he had done before, but briskly. What had soothed now rasped. But somehow comforted. “Why did you act that way?” he asked.

Buy Link:

Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Body-Politics-Cane-Society-ebook/dp/B00AYIII66/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1360599718&sr=8-1&keywords=cara+bristol+body+politics

Amazon UK: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Body-Politics-Cane-Society-ebook/dp/B00AYIII66/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1360599771&sr=8-1

Barnes & Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/body-politics-cara-bristol/1114148945?ean=9781623001568

Website blog: http://www.carabristol.com

Twitter: @CaraBristol